Since the summer, we've moved about 1,000 miles away from our families to a new state, we added a new baby to our family of 6 just 4 short months prior to that move, our oldest son had some concerning health issues where he needed medical testing and we were very concerned for about 2 months (ended well with a diagnosis and medication that is helping him, what a blessing!), I broke my toe around Christmas and basically was unable to get around for 2 weeks, and my husband sprained his ankle right before that! I've had sadnesses to overcome that could be described: "in the quiet heart is hidden sorrow that the eye can’t see."
The list goes on: separations due to my dear husband's work trips, trying to get the house set up alone while caring for 5 children, illnesses that went through the whole family, getting the two oldest boys set up in their new cub scout troop, figuring out homeschooling in a new area, making new friends, etc, etc.
Whew! There really have been some trying times! Emotional roller coasters and late nights ensued. I know many people could claim harder trials (which helps me not feel sorry for myself! I don't have it so bad)....but it leads me to want to talk with others about life's journey of ups and downs and how to deal with them all.
I've been thinking about when life is not easy and when challenges come. How do I deal with them? How do you deal with them?
It's a pretty personal thing, but talking about this generally can be such a blessing. I know that when I go through a hard time, it helps to talk with others who have been there and can share an insight that shows things get better. And sometimes I learn something I didn't know before someone shared. I share this post as much for my own encouragement as anyone else's! No one is exempt from life's trials, including bloggers :-)
Thinking back to how I coped through my own personal challenges, these things came to mind:
- Prayer is a lifeline for me, personally. When I am struggling or confused or lonely, I pray to God and feel His presence close-by. His spirit leads me with ideas that come to my mind, and so even though I do not know everything, when I follow those little thoughts and spiritual promptings little by little, somehow I am able to go through the day, doing the things that keep us going.
- The word of the Lord never fails....sometimes I forget to turn to it, but when I remember, it never fails to bless me. Psalms in particular refresh me and bring me hope. For any trouble, there is a scripture for that. Best medicine there is, no prescription needed!
- I talk with someone I trust. My husband is dear to me. He often listens with a lot of patience and compassion for me. That has been a blessing to me. My Mom is also a dear person who shares with me her concern and care for me and that means a lot to know she is thinking of me.
- Music! It still amazes me how powerful one song that lifts my spirits can be. I love hymns for this. I often find some on Mormon Channel or Youtube but recently discovered some lovely ones on Spotify. I have a small personal LDS hymnal that I sometimes pick up and choose a hymn to sing that fits my need of the moment. At the bottom of each page, there are two scriptures that accompany that particular song and sometimes I end my devotional by looking those up and reading them.
- Patience. I know that things always get better and often its darkest right before dawn. That means its often hardest right before things ease up, so hold on and have hope! I try to remind myself of this and its definitely not easy!
These verses from Romans chapter 5 speak peace to my soul. The rest of the chapter is so good.
1 Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ:
2 By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.
5 And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.
How do you cope when situations or your emotions feel overwhelming to you or when you face a challenge that really stretches your ability to cope? What resource or place do you turn to for answers to your questions? Thanks for sharing what helps you. You never know how your own comments can bless others who read! :-)